Most of our psychological suffering and most of the pain we inflict on others stem from our confusion about what we want and all the consequent clumsiness with which we go after it.
Author: Maria Popova | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Desires, Life & Society, Personal Improvement, Psychology | Behavior, Relationships
Desiring something is, without doubt, a move toward possession of that something (“possession” meaning that in some way or other the object should enter our orbit and become part of us). For this reason, desire automatically dies when it is fulfilled; it ends with satisfaction… One may sometimes grow to love what he desires: we desire what we love, because we love it.
Author: José Ortega y Gasset | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Desires, Love, Psychology | Behavior
Desire is often so difficult to distinguish from love because it is rooted in longing, but longing exists only in absence and evaporates at the moment of attainment, while love grows more saturated the more presence and energy it is given.
Author: Maria Popova | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Desires, Love, Psychology | Behavior
It is a strange thing, desire — so fiery yet so forlorn, aimed at having and animated by lack. In its restlessness and its pointedness, so single of focus, it shares psychic territory with addiction. Its Latin root — dē + sidus, “away from one’s star” — bespeaks its disorientation, its rush of longing, which we so easily mistake for love. And yet, when unplugged … [ Read more ]
Author: Maria Popova | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Desires, Love, Psychology | Behavior, Relationships
Remember needs are logical while wants and desires are sentimental and emotional. Your needs will push you just so far, but when your needs are satisfied, they will stop pushing you. If, however, your purpose is in terms of wants or desires, then your wants and desires are fulfilled.
Author: Albert E.N. Gray | Source: Farnam Street | Subjects: Desires, Motivation, Personal Improvement, Psychology | Behavior
Desire is a two headed snake. On one end, it cultivates anticipation and on the other it cultivates fear. Positive outcomes build anticipation and negative outcomes build fear from desire. Some people are attached to the high of anticipation and some are attached to the lows of fear. In both cases, reality slips by unnoticed in the background.
Author: Abhinav (Specks) | Source: Medium | Subjects: Desires, Psychology | Behavior
Desire is not what you see, but what you imagine.
Author: Paulo Coelho | Subjects: Desires, Psychology | Behavior
In general, one is only right when either wish or fear coincides with reality. If one recognizes this, one cannot, of course, get rid of one’s subjective feelings, but one can to some extent insulate them from one’s thinking and make predictions cold-bloodedly, by the book of arithmetic.
Author: George Orwell | Subjects: Concepts, Desires, Fear, Intelligence | Knowledge, Personal Improvement, Psychology | Behavior
In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.
Author: Oscar Wilde | Subjects: Desires, Life & Society
Passion is destructive, demanding, jealous. Passion goes up and down. Love is constant.
Author: Jean Mareau | Subjects: Desires, Love
I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.
Author: Mark Twain | Subjects: Desires, Life & Society