Jealousy is self-confirming; it breeds itself… In no simple way (such as: OK, I was wrong all along) will this state of torment and anguish give up its claims or its existence.
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The imagination not to imagine is an important power of intelligence disabled here by the seeming necessities of obsession.
Author: Leslie Farber | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Love, Psychology | Behavior, Relationships
There is another affliction of passion which may be seen as a companion obsession to jealousy; that is the state called being-in-love. Unlike jealousy, about which, to my mind, there is really nothing redeeming to be said, being-in-love does have pleasures, even virtues, which can survive its transformation into some more reasonable relation. But the state of being-in-love itself is strikingly similar to jealousy. The … [ Read more ]
Author: Leslie Farber | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Love, Psychology | Behavior, Relationships
As the child grows gradually aware of the absolute separateness of his being from all other beings in the world, he discovers that this condition offers both pleasure and terror. On the one hand he cherishes his separate, individual, regal self, and on the other he yearns for the loneliness of his autonomy to be relieved by relation with others. The manner in which he … [ Read more ]
Author: Leslie Farber | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Psychology | Behavior, Relationships
The experience of jealousy always includes so strong a conviction of being injured that it is most unusual for the jealous person to be able to consider the injury his jealousy causes others. For this reason, the real guilt that is jealousy’s inevitable consequence is seldom acknowledged by a jealous person; it is obliterated by his overriding absorption in his own injury.
Author: Leslie Farber | Source: The Marginalian (Brain Pickings) | Subjects: Love, Psychology | Behavior, Relationships